Disability After Dark
The podcast shining a bright light on disability stories.
8 years ago

Episode 060 - My Journey Navigating Consent/Harassment as a Queer Cripple

This was a tough episode to record. In light of all the sexual assault stories coming out, I felt it was necessary to talk about how disabled people deal with consent, sexual harassment and sexual assault. In this episode, I share some moments of things that happened to me. It wasn't easy sharing this stuff, but I felt it was important. This isn't an episode you should enjoy, but you should give pause and think. There will be another episode about this with a panel of other disabled people discussing consent soon enough.

8 years ago

Episode 059 - What It’s Like Werking as a Queer Cripple

In this episode, I talk about what it has been like for me working in the industry as a queer cripple, and what that has meant for me. We talk about the beginnings of my writings, professional ableism as a Queer Cripple, I share the pitfalls of being a profesional Queer Cripple speaker and more.

8 years ago

Episode 058 - My First (And Hopefully Not Last) Threesome as a Queer Cripple

This episode is a hilarious re-telling of my first (and hopefully not last) threesome as a Queer Cripple. I share what I wanted the threesome to be, the reality of it, and what I learned from it for my next one. Throughout the story, I touch on internalized ableism, sexual ableism, some funny moments and more. Enjoy!

8 years ago

Episode 057 - An Interview with Queerty Contributor Josh Galassi

In this episode, I sit down with Queerty contributor Josh Galassi. He writes a lot about his experiences being queer and disabled. We chat about coming out as disabled on apps, privilege, asking your lovers what they thought of you and your disability, and so much more.

8 years ago

Episode 056 - Sex, Disability and The Law

In this episode, I take a look at sex, disability and the law. We talk briefly about The Ugly Laws, Eugenics, and discuss two cases that examine consent, sex, disability and the law. Through these cases I explore how the courts and our legal systems have a lot of work to do in understanding disability, and suggest perhaps that the courts would rather rely on ableist prejudices than looking at things further.

8 years ago

Episode 055 - PwD - Porn While Disabled, Part 1: Why I Wanna Do Porn

In this episode, I talk candidly about my relationship to porn as a queer cripple, and how I came to learn about it in my youth. In this first part of a miniseries I am calling "PwD: Porn While Disabled", I share why I think disability and porn are totally important, potentially problematic, and uncover why I myself might want to embark in the industry.

8 years ago

Episode 054 - A Conversation with Dating Coach on Wheels; Amin Lakhani

In this episode, I chat with "Dating Coach on Wheels" [[www.datingcoachonwheels.com](http://www.datingcoachonwheels.com)], Amin Lakhani about his experiences with sex, disability, tight clothes, jerking off, bow ties and muscular dystrophy. This is definitely one of my fave episodes so far! Enjoy!

8 years ago

Episode 053 - Some Thoughts on Flirting and Disability

In ths episode, I take a look at some flirting advice from the book ["The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability](https://www.amazon.ca/Ultimate-Guide-Sex-Disability-Disabilities/dp/1573443042)". I talk about how I feel about some of this advice and whether or not I believe the advice holds up in the real-life disabled flirting scenarios... p.s. I dont think the advice does. I talk about my feelings around "Be Yourself" and "Be Bold" advice as a disabled person. I suggest that the onus to "be bold", etc. really shouldn't be placed on the disabled individual. Just some thoughts.

8 years ago

Episode 052 - Sex, Disability, Parents, The Media and Consent

This episode had me riled up and angry about the way the media ran stories from parents of children with disabilities without the children's consent. I focus on 2 stories here about two parents who consider hiring sex workers for their sons to experience sex. I had lots of things to say about that (mostly angry things), and I also touch on disability activists[ Carly Findlay](http://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/real-life/in-the-news/dear-katie-price-a-disability-doesnt-take-away-your-right-to-privacy) and [Kim Sauder's](https://crippledscholar.com/2017/07/09/issues-of-disabled-sexuality-and-consent-when-parents-get-involved-in-their-childrens-sex-lives/) thoughts on the matter. What do you think about parents talking about their disabled child's sex lives to the media?

8 years ago

Episode 051 - Becoming Comfortably Autistic - An Interview w/ Alex Haagaard

For this episode, I got to sit down with disabled activist Alex Haagaard. We talked about the intersectionality found on the autism spectrum w/ respect to sexuality. This was a really important interview that touched on disability and sexuality in a new way for me, and I'm excited to share that with you!